How to recognize illusion in negotiations? Rules of social influence and manipulation techniques
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\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nIn negotiations, not everything is as it seems. Behind politeness can be calculation, behind apparent compliance - the desire to take control of the process. The key to successfully defending against unfavorable concessions is to understand the mechanisms of influence that negotiators - often unconsciously - use against each other.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nIn this article, we will explain what social influence rules are, how they differ from influence techniques, and how they are transformed into specific negotiation tactics. We will look at two common illusions: one based on the rule of liking, and the other on the rule of commitment and consistency.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nSocial influence rules vs. manipulation techniques - clarification of terms
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nSocial influence rules are basic psychological principles that guide our social reactions. They are universal - they work across cultures, situations and relationships. Their power stems from the fact that they make it easier for us to function in a complex social world - they help us make quick decisions without burdening our minds with excessive analysis.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nSome of the most commonly used rules in negotiations include:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nOn the basis of these rules, influence techniques are created - deliberate actions that use known social mechanisms to control the behavior of another person.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nA technique is a practical application of a rule - dressed up as a strategy of action.
These are the techniques we encounter most often in negotiations.
Illusion No. 1: The rule of liking and the \"wolf in sheep's clothing\" technique
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nRule of liking - the power of liking
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe Rule of Liking says that we are more willing to comply with requests from people we have affection for. In negotiations, this can take the form of:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThis doesn't have to be manipulation - but it becomes so when the sympathy is apparent, and its purpose is solely to weaken your vigilance.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe \"wolf in sheep's clothing\" technique
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThis is a specific technique based on the rule of likeability. It involves hiding selfish or hard interests under the mask of friendly cooperation. The interlocutor pretends to be an open partner, but in reality:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nPay attention to:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nIllusion #2: The rule of consistency and the \"small steps\" technique
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nRule of consistency - the need to be consistent
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nPeople have a strong need for internal consistency. If we agree to something once, we find it harder to back out later - even if the situation has changed. This is a psychological mechanism that makes it easier for us to act, but in negotiations it can be used against us.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThe \"small steps\" technique
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nThis is a technique based on this very rule. It involves gradually pushing the boundaries:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nAs a result, you end up with an agreement that you would never have accepted at the beginning - but you were \"drawn\" into it.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nPay attention to:
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nRules ≠ techniques, but are interrelated
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n| Social rule | The technique based on it | Purpose of the technique |
| Rule of liking | Wolf in sheep's clothing | Build an apparent bond to weaken vigilance |
| Rule of consistency | Small steps technique | Draw the interlocutor into a string of concessions |
A rule is a mechanism - a technique is a tool that exploits it. A conscious negotiator not only knows the rules, but recognizes the specific techniques by which they are implemented.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nHow to defend against illusions in negotiations?
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nSummary
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nIllusions in negotiation are not magic - they are predictable, psychological strategies based on the rules of social influence. The rule of like and the rule of consequence are powerful tools - but only if you are not aware of them. When you know what's going on, you can react, stop the process and regain control.
\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nDo you want to gain immunity from manipulation and an edge at the negotiating table?
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